Question: I love my partner and we have a great relationship, but the lust is gone and I crave that "new and exciting" feeling that being with another person would offer. Any advice? Answer: This question is put to me in a variety of ways every week by all kinds of people in all kinds of relationships. Because this seems to be the benchmark of modern love and attraction. It's what is portrayed in movies and media. It comes about when you get a new lover — your skin connects with their skin and your brain gets signals of "Oooh, someone new!
Back to Sexual health. Besides a heart full of love and a big smile, romance can bring some positive health benefits. Some scientific studies suggest that a loving relationship, physical touch and sex can bring health benefits. Anything that exercises your heart is good for you, including sex. Sexual arousal sends the heart rate higher, and the number of beats per minute reaches its peak during orgasm. Some studies show the average peak heart rate at orgasm is the same as during light exercise, such as walking upstairs.
You may feel comfortable kissing or holding hands but not want to go any further. Deciding whether you want to have sex or when you should is a decision you should make when it feels right for YOU. At times, this elevation is a good and enjoyable thing, but sometimes it makes a difficult situation worse. Even if you are in a healthy relationship and would like to have sex with your partner, some beliefs or expectations might make this decision more complicated. You and the people in your life might have different ideas about when or what type of sexual activity is alright and what is not.
But, whether gay, straight, trans or any other combination, when two people come together to date or to get serious, they face the same highs and lows that surface in any relationship. These early forays into relationships are familiar to any love persuasion. Basically, regardless of who you love, when two people get together, you begin to delve into a wonderful, albeit complex, world. What can add to the complexity for same-sex couples, however, is the outside world.